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If you get that clammy and nervous feeling when you try to go all romantic, you are a normal guy. Don’t worry. Even guys who are “smoothies” get butterflies in their stomachs when it comes to romance. It helps to know that even the “lady killer” guys you know get nervous like that. The difference is that they hide it better than you do. It’s hard to say why guys get so edgy about this topic but it might be because girls naturally think in romantic terms. But for guys, being romantic is a learned skill.

The good news is that if other guys have learned how to say just the right things to the girl they adore, you and I can too. It’s just a matter of knowing the secret of romance and getting prepared for when the moment comes. And the fact that you are reading this article shows that you are indeed getting ready.

First, think about the last romantic movie you saw. You were probably with your girl and the sweet talking guy on the screen always knew what to say to make the girl want to be all his. That movie was just an example of the many ways we have romantic thoughts and words around us all the time in movies, on TV shows and even on the romantic cards you buy for her. So to start building your list of romantic statements to learn from by writing down and learning some of the best lines from these the movies, poetry and other sources. You can even put them on cards so you can have a few with you on a date should the right moment come along.

Well, there is no harm in doing a little homework. After all, if you don’t walk around all day thinking lines that would fit in a romantic song, don’t be too hard on yourself. Most guys need to shift gears to think of how to express the feelings we have inside for the girls we adore. And reading romantic poems and collecting your favorite lines will give you ideas on how to empress those thoughts.

You know those slick lover boys know the tricks of how to talk romantic talk to a girl so you deserve to know them too. The trick isn’t really a trick though because the best way to say romantic things is to speak from your heart. In fact, the last thing you want to do is just blindly repeat romantic words from your study notes hoping that will work. She will know you are faking it and it will not win her heart.

So the clue its time to say something romantic comes when those feelings come up inside you for her during the date. By putting your mind in a romantic mood like your heart is in, you can just put in words the feelings you have very naturally in your own words, not somebody else’s words. Don’t worry. If it isn’t all flowery and sound like something from a movie, she will know it’s from your heart and she will absolutely love it.

Girls have a natural feeling for when you are being real with them and when you are being phony. So by starting from your genuine feelings and letting them flow out in expressions of affection, admiration and romance, you will come up with the “right” thing to say and say it at the exactly right time. It’s like using “the force” from Star Wars. You will know how to do it right if you follow that inner voice.

The “trick” of getting really good at coming up with perfect romantic words is that they are already in you, you just have to find the boldness to speak them to your girl. Its odd to say but allowing yourself to be romantic takes some bravery for a man. But you know you have often had a romantic thought in your head like “She has never looked so beautiful” and you just never expressed it. For women, expressing romance and emotions is natural but men are just as instinctive about hiding those thoughts. So to become the romantic guy your girl deserves, you must “reprogram” yourself to express your feelings of romantic emotion when they happen.

You never know when romantic feelings might come up. Perhaps you feel them at a romantic dinner when you are overwhelmed with how lovely she is. But now you know that instead of just thinking that she is adorable, you must create a natural reflex to go ahead and tell her so. But you will be rewarded because once you learn to give to the girl those adoring thoughts and romantic feelings, they will genuinely touch her heart.

So instead of worrying only about romantic words that you hear other lovers say in movies and songs, start looking inside. You are having romantic feelings already, even if you have not spoken them to your sweetheart. By learning to let them come out when they happen, you will become the kind of guy who knows how to “sweet talk” your girl, not with phony borrowed phrases but with words of true love, feeling and romance.

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