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After the big ordeal that is your breakup, it is only natural that your ex will be somewhat evasive and hard to get on the phone. If you ever want to get him back, you will have to find a way around that. Leaving just the right message on his voicemail or answering machine can really make him want to call you back…and it is pretty easy to do if you have the right plan!

Before we get too into it, here is a short list of some of the things you really do NOT want to let yourself fall into the trap of doing. It is not the end of the world if you already have done one or more of these things, but since it can make things a fair bit harder you should try to avoid finding yourself in a situation where you are:

–Pleading and begging him to come back to you. The Plea is almost sure to fail, and even if it does make him willing to give you another shot, he is never optimistic about it and it is almost doomed before it starts.

–Claiming that it is an absolute Emergency and implying that calling you back is a life and death matter. Being so dramatic is not going to make things go any better for you. He knows it is not an emergency, and so do you. It can be hard to deal with this time, but making it out to be an emergency just hurts your chances of getting him back.

–Playing the part of the romance movie guy who leaves a big, long, emotional message that melts the heart of his angry sweetie and fixes all the problems they had throughout the entire movie. Life simply does not work that way, I am sorry to say. It takes a lot more fixing than that, and in the real world your ex usually skips half the message and deletes it. It is another form of drama that is just too overwhelming and will not help you at all.

Those are all ways to make sure he DOES NOT call you. To make him WANT to call you, you need to utilize two of the oldest motivators in human nature: curiosity and self-interest. These have been used by everybody from businesspeople to world leaders, because they are effective for directing attention like nothing else is.

Try saying something like this:

-I just wanted to thank you, you really helped me out. I would really love it if you would call me back, because I would like to give you my thanks in person.-

Given this sort of line, your ex will hardly be able to keep from grabbing the phone. He will wonder, what was it he did? How did he help you? What does all this have to do with him? Getting him to ask himself questions like that will be sure to get him on the phone and put you in a good position.

But STOP…right HERE! When he calls, it is incredibly important that you have a good idea of exactly what plan to say…if you go into this without an underlying strategy, you could ruin your chances entirely. Do not risk it!

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