What Do You Fear- Meeting Women or Having Grandpa’s Bald Pate?

By Chris Benjamin in Marriage and Relationships on June 5th, 2008

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by Chris Benjamin

Most men have fears - some don’t like spiders, others don’t like heights, and still others fear going bald or getting a pot belly. These are not things that men naturally lay out on the table and discuss. One very common fear among men, though, that should be discussed, is the fear of approaching women.

One of the first things that men can learn to do to help overcome approach anxiety is practice. Practice makes perfect after all, and the more you do it, the more comfortable you will become. The more comfortable you become, the more success you will have. Women can sense a man’s ease - and if he is easily able to strike up a conversation with her, that will make her more comfortable.

So as soon as you see a woman you want to approach - do it before you can psyche yourself out. Another thing that really helps opening a conversation with women is using techniques like Cocky Comedy or Cocky Funny, as some people call it.

David Deangelo of Double Your Dating developed the Cocky Comedy program to help men create attraction and fan the flames with a woman. Cocky Comedy seems very natural, and after getting used to it, it can easily become part of your personality. With most “naturals” - it is already. The boiled down version of Cocky Funny is this - you use words to say that she is NOT all that - but your body language tells a different story.

One great way to accomplish this is by simply picking on her - making jokes about her shirt or her hair or something like that. Not rude - just playful. Then, with your body language, show her you are interested in her by touching her or hugging her, simple things that let her know that you ARE interested.

This method will keep the woman confused and slightly off balance - wondering whether or not you really ARE attracted to her and making her try a little harder to win your approval. In other words, it puts YOU in the upper hand instead f her.

The long term effects of this, on a man, are that the more you practice and get comfortable approaching women, you will start to see that women are very similar in their attraction preferences. Looks don’t necessarily matter to women, it is the way you make her FEEL that matters to her. You will also develop the ability to disarm people, total strangers, using Cocky Comedy, and will develop a confidence and an aura that women will find irresistible.

So - practice approaching women and using Cocky Comedy to engage them. Soon, you will find that you are becoming more and more successful in meeting the kind of woman you want to date, losing your own fears and anxiety and showing her that you are a calm, cool and confident man.

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