The True Cost Of Divorce Can Be Hidden
We all hear it too often. Boy meets girl, both fall in love and decides to get married, down the road someone gets involved with an affair, one party is severely hurt by an affair and pushes for a divorce. Marriage ends and there goes another point to the board that says \”Happy Endings Are Myth\” and along with it paying the high cost of divorce, financially or emotionally.
Nowadays, divorce is so common that it’s almost a household name. A divorce differs from an annulment in a way that divorce means an ending of marriage before death of either spouse while an annulment is a declaration making the marriage null and void in the first place.
In response to a variety of problems, couples may turn to divorce as a \”quick, easy and cheap\” solution to their relationship problems. However, people often jump to this option without realizing the cost of a divorce, in both emotional and financial terms.
Many couples see divorce as quick and easily handled, but the reality is quite different; some divorces stretch out for a long time, with the average taking about two years.
While hiring a person to represent you in divorce court can vary depending on the circumstances, the average figure thrown around to hire a good divorce attorney is usually $3,000 each for a one-day trial, more than most people originally expect. When you add in court fees and expert witnesses, that number quickly skyrockets.
Along with the \”sticker price\” of the divorce, the husband and wife sometimes forget about the hidden fees. All of a sudden, each individual needs to find a new way to pay rental or mortgage payments. Auto and health insurance change. Alimony and child support can sometimes require large payments. Without warning, one’s cost of living can go through the roof.
Easily overlooked by many couples is the emotional toll they take from going through a divorce as well. A messy divorce can conceivably cause later psychological problems and leave people \”living in the past.\” Unresolved anger is often a result.
Another emotional cost a divorce process would be the avoidance of responsibility. At this phase, it is all too common to play the \”fault and blame\” game. Instead of taking responsibility of ones action, they result to blaming the other party to make themselves look as if they were the victim. In most cases this would only lead to feeling of helplessness and could easily slide to depression.
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