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It may seem like exactly what you don’t want to do, but believe it or not cutting off contact with your ex can help a lot when you do decide to actively pursue a relationship with him. Rebuilding a life with him can be a lot simpler and easier after a term of about a month with no contact between you…and here are a few reasons why.

1) If you’ve been fighting with someone, isn’t it usually helpful to take a break from them rather than risk even more fighting? This is definitely the case for freshly broken-up couples, especially when you intend to eventually give it another go. Staying in each others’ faces will just cause more conflict, so break it off for about a month.

Once the month has finished and everyone’s heads are cooler and more calm, working on the relationship can begin anew. After the break, everyone will be in a better frame of mind, allowing for a much easier time of constructive pursuit of fixing the problems between you.

2) Even if you two are on good terms still, being together after the breakup has other effects that can make it harder to get him back. Think about it, how much will your ex want you back in his life if he feels you never left his life? That’s how it can end up feeling if you’re still together after you separate.

A couple quotes for you: “absence makes the heart grow fonder” and “you don’t know what you have until it’s gone.” Being so close to one another for so long makes it harder to notice the great things about being together. When you two are forced to be apart, your ex actually gets the opportunity to miss you…and often that ends up making the situation sink in a lot deeper, and makes mutual agreement to get back together a lot easier.

3) When everything’s going to pieces, and your ex is right in front of you all the time, it can be hard to make the right decisions. Flying by the seat of your pants reacting instead of just acting, you’ll find it a lot tougher to work this out. What you need is some time and space alone to develop a plan of action.

It’s not easy to predict what your best course of action is for getting back your ex. People in this situation behave differently than you’d naturally assume, so don’t trust yor first impulses when dealing with your ex. You need a real plan based on how things really work, and without it you’ll be sailing against the wind, with a blindfold on.

So there you go. 3 reasons why it’s really beneficial to start out your breakup with a true clean break. No contact means no contact…no phone calls, no text messages, no email…nothing. This can really help you out, and I recommend it to everyone just fresh out of a relationship if you want to get your life together and get your ex back.

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